Do some of these Characteristics seem Familiar? Might you have a Suppressive Person in your life?
1) Most of their conversation is negative. They almost always feel that life has been unfair to them.
2) They make generalizations, which are also negative. For example: “You’re stupid”
“You’re always late”
“Men are bastards”
“You can’t trust women”
3) They lie.
4) Whenever they pass on news, they make the information more negative. They seldom pass on good news.
5) They do not change, no matter what happens. They also do not strive to make changes in any areas of their lives. They expect others to deal with how they are.
6) The people they surround themselves with are often sick, having accidents and problems, making mistakes and generally having trouble with life. They choose their close associations to be people that they feel they are better than. They don’t like to be around others who are popular, more intelligent, successful, etc. unless they can put them down somehow—and they will do all they can to make those people feel less than, so they can feel superior.
7) If they have a problem they blame others or situations and work on anything other than the real cause of the problem.
8) The usually don’t finish whatever projects they start. If they make an actual decision to stop a project before its completion, they are very poor at tidying up the loose ends.
9) They have a low or no sense of responsibility for anything they have done that is unethical or destructive. They often cannot see that there was anything wrong with something destructive that they did. They rarely, if ever, apologize.
10) They do not truly help people. Often they may APPEAR to help others. However, the people they `help’ do not benefit from the `help’ they receive, or get any better as a result of the `help’.
11) They do not respect others’ property, relationships, or anything that belongs to someone else. They will use and destroy as they see fit, and have no remorse for what they may have done.
12) They are big on status. They judge people by how `important’ they are, how rich they are, what kind of possessions they have etc. Their jealousy of these people will cause them to make derisive remarks about these people, or dismiss them totally.
Please Note: The key is what they say – not how they say it.
In contrast these are folks you would like to have in your life–or be yourself
1) They LIKE to talk about good things! They prefer not to discuss negative things. Or, they speak of life events in a neutral way.
2) They are specific, especially when making negative comments. For example, instead of the comments in number two above, they might say:
“You made a mistake”
“You are late today”
“Philip can be nasty at times”
“I have found that I have not been able to trust some of the women I have met much of the time”
3) When they pass on a piece of information, they don’t change its essential message.
4) When they pass on a piece of news they don’t change it’s essential message. They may even draw out good things from it.
5) They make changes for the better.
6) The people around them are well, happy and generally doing well in life. If problems occur, as they will, they deal with them head on and with integrity.
7) They can find the cause of a problem and therefore can and do fix it.
8) Projects that they start are usually completed. If they decide to stop a project before its completion, they tie up all the loose ends before they move on.
9) They have a high sense of responsibility. If they do something unethical or destructive, they are usually ashamed of having done it, and will most often go about making amends or corrections.
10) They truly help people. What they give to, or do for another makes a positive difference to that person’s life.
11) They respect the property of others.
12) Status is immaterial to them. If they judge others, they judge them for who they are as a person. They don’t judge for how much money and status they have. They look within a person and love them for who they truly are.
If after looking at this information, you feel that you might be around a person or persons like this, here are a few suggestions. As a magical person, I would also say, take the time to surround yourself with white light if you will be around people like this. If you feel that you might be a person like this, start today down a road of change. Don’t beat yourself up, simply find ways to change yourself, you will be happier and more joyful in life.
1) DON’T tell someone that they are a suppressive person. That would be a suppressive act itself. And, DON’T tell others about who you think is suppressive.
2) If you want to help someone else who is close to a destructive person, you could talk to them about this article and see if they are receptive to learning more. If they are open, then you could give them this article. Let them make their own discoveries and choices in life.
3) Move away from the destructive person if you can. Have as little to do with them as possible. This is the best solution! Unfortunately it is not always possible. You can work at shutting them out of your life, by not engaging them in conversation, or letting them know anything about your life.
4) Give away or throw away anything that reminds you of them, such as gifts. Especially remove from your view any photographs that remind you of them. If you owe them money, start paying it back today, even if it is only $5 / week. If they owe you money, get it back or write it off.
5) If you must be in contact with them, then you will have to stand up to them. These people have no spiritual power of their own. They get their power by taking power from others, by pushing them down. Refuse to allow them to take your power.
Some ways of standing up to them are:
a) Make it clear that you are not going to listen to bad news, no matter what.
b) When they make generalizations, pin them down to specifics.
c) Steer them into the topics of conversation that they CAN be positive or neutral about.
d) DON’T let them put judgements on you. Let them know that THEIR opinion of YOU is none of YOUR business.
All of the above information came from this website, check it out if you are interested: http://www.relfe.com/ppp.html–the author being Stephanie Relfe B.Sc.